Often people resist the change, and this change is not the organisational or a technological change, it’s the change within, many a times I have heard people saying I have been like this since my childhood or all of my friends in my life have accepted me like this or my behaviour is same as it was in my last organisation even say the dressing is not important have been dressed like this since so many years and everyone has accepted.

Does everyone really accept you the way you are? Or is it a myth?

If you live in desert and you travel to snow world, will you really wear the same cloth or behave and eat same as you were doing when you were in desert- the answer would be a BIG NO, same is the case in life, when we move from one city to another, one organisation to another one friend circle to another, it’s a call for a change, and if you will not change yourself you will definitely face the challenges of acceptance.

The solution is wearing a different coat for different situation, and when I say coat- it’s the behaviour or ‘personality’ and not your character. You need a different personality for your friends, your organisation, for your team, for your clients for your professional life and for your personal life.

The most important thing here is to accept that it’s time to change or it’s a call to wear a different personality.

When I suggest a change to your personality, I mean the external elements, mostly. You chore values and beliefs need not change. The best example of this is when you change your job and go to a new organisation. You have to adapt to the tone of your new organisation otherwise the office culture will reject you. However, your work ethic itself will remain the same.

Then there is the concept of signature style. This has to be cultivated over a long period of time. The best example of ‘signature style’ is Ranveer Singh. He carries himself in a particular manner with particular grace. People sometimes comment on his dressing sense and his behaviour. However, he does not care.

You also need proper guidance to create a signature style. After all even your personal style needs to tailor itself to an event.

One of the best examples of style failure is Pakistan’s captain meeting the queen of England in his traditional attire. He wanted to make a statement, however, it completely failed to impress the audience. Instead, he was reprimanded for breaking protocol. Hence, even while making a signature style, it is important to tailor your style to the occasion.

These are people skills and they matter the most. These skills advertise who you are in many ways. These skills ensure that you get a better reception wherever you go and people remember who you are. It is time for you to stop complaining and hone these skills. It will make you a better communicator and it will ensure that you meet less resistance at your workplace and at home.